EDIT: Sorry for re-posting, the order of my blog posts got mixed up somehow when I was editing this post and I struggled to get them back in order though I think I have it fixed now. xx
Excuse my tantrum the other day. Sometimes it can feel like I'm the
only one trying to keep this place in order, even though I know that is
absolutely not the case. Everyone seems to have picked up the slack now
and I got rid of another boot load which was great.
me de-cluttering and finding space in this little home is such an
amazing feeling. To know I will never have to move an item or clean
something that I don't use is such freedom!
through Henry's clothes, put some aside "just in case" there is another
baby and donated a box as well. His draws are full of space now - its
lovely! I went though the children's books and got rid of two bags
full, William is up to reading small novels now so the space will be
useful. I like having a good selection of books for the boys to go
through. I think it is really important to be surrounded by good
books! I *may* have donated a bunch of books I dislike reading to them
because I find them dull and boring.....but hopefully this will open
their eyes to all of the beautiful books that were not getting a look
There was a couple of pots that I don't use,
there were toys, linen and assorted bits and bobs. I also had a big
stripy bag with fabric in it and another bag of stuff in the car waiting
to go. The load was not as big as I intended, but it was still a boot
load. I took it to the donation bin that very day when the boys were in
I realized we are getting down to the crux
of what we really use. There might be another bag of toys if I'm really
ruthless.....But a lot of the mess was things like pencils/paper/board
games etc. So I gathered all the board games, found all the pieces and
put them in a cupboard up high so the little ones cannot get to them to
tip them out. And same as the drawing stuff. They only really need a
little out at a time.
feeling better. There is actually a fair bit of space on our shelves
which is really great. And If I were to donate all the clothes I have
stored from the boys in various sizes our wardrobes would actually have a
lot of room in them.
My little clear out triggered an
interesting conversation with my parents. They have just spent time with
my niece who turned 6. She was given many, many presents by family,
friends, grandparents. As children often are today. Anyway her mother
(my sister in law who is just gorgeous.) became very upset at her
flippant, ungrateful behavior that developed after opening so many
presents. She got very cross at her and was very upset to see her
It is ugly when we see our children being
bratty and ungrateful and quite frankly it is not fun parenting a child
who acts ungrateful and spoilt.
We often hear the
older generation talk about today's generation being "ungrateful" and
they may well be right. But it is OUR job as a society to not allow
this to happen. A child cannot help if they are given many, many
things. It is only natural that the gift giving process will loose some
of its shine if it is over the top. My niece is a lovely little girl,
she usually has good manners. Its just gifts were literally being
thrown at her and it was too much, she was quite simply - over it.
is our actions and decisions as Aunties/Uncles/parents and Grandparents
that mold the next generation and instill in them the values we want
them to have. If we want our children to be grateful we need to give
less to bring the magic and excitement back! Gift giving in our house
is now saved for birthdays and Christmases. The amount we give is also
very small. This was not always the case. I too have fallen into the
trap of giving the boys too many gifts. It is fun to see children's
face light up! But I have come to realize the less I give, the more
they appreciate it. The easier it is to teach gratitude, appreciation
and it makes parenting a whole lot simpler. It brings back the magic of
gift giving, the joy and the fun for all of us. And frankly anything
that makes parenting easier is a good thing in my books!
have come to realize the magic in birthdays and Christmas lies in the
ANTICIPATION. If we give constantly or excessively then this
anticipation is lost and so is the magic.
happen to love cake, I'll use this as the analogy. A birthday or
Christmas should be like a cake. The bulk of the cake is made up of
ingredients that are mixed together. These 'ingredients" on such an occasion are
having a few very special people close, perhaps having a favorite meal
prepared and giving and receiving love by those closest in our lives, if
religion is a corner stone in your life like it is mine then sharing
the story of faith also plays a component. A gift or two is simply the
icing on the top! It is a small part of the cake - delicious yes - but
if there is too much icing, the cake becomes too sweet and its spoilt! A
cake is delicious only if it is balanced.
I gave my little niece a home made library bag, an Enid Blyton short novel and a
small set of Frozen doll magnets that you can "dress", she was very polite
and happy. The responsibility of raising a grateful, appreciative generation does not lie simply on the parents, it is our societies responsibility. No one is off the hook.