reflections on the end of a season

As this move which consists of 1763km or 1095miles half-way across this vast country of ours edges closer, the inevitable "goodbyes" have begun.  I'm not one for fuss, much preferring to slip away quietly with a quick "see you later."

But even those are hard.

Today my heart ached as I sat at my dear friend Sally's kitchen table for the final time for goodness knows how long.  Sally and I may be women of different generations, but the similarities in our philosophies about being homemakers, living simply and frugality are oh so similar.  She gently teases me for being a "funny old thing" who is just like her, which I take as the highest compliment.





We chat freely and openly about all manner of things sometimes laughing big belly laughs, other times sharing a few quiet tears.  To know such friendship is a wonderful gift.

Every time I visit, Sally walks me through her cottage and the farm depending on the weather.  Showing me what she is working on, her new tiny chickens in the veggie patch, her beautiful cows, the pigs, recent sewing projects, her clever cheesemaking while gently imparting her huge wealth of knowledge.  I savour these tours and marvel at Sally and Brian's skills and resourcefulness, as well as the care they have for their land and their animals.

A new bread of bantams that Sally has at the farm, brought in to keep away earwigs in the veggie patch.  These guys are TINY, and they happily exist around the veggies without doing any damage.  Sally has DIY frames with mesh over her herbs and seedlings until they are established, but then the veggies and the chickens co-exist well.

I also I caught up with a bunch of wonderful women at our monthly 'Slow Gatherings Barossa' this week, where women of all ages meet to primarily discuss Instagram and what we are each trying to do with the various small businesses and hobby's we each have.  The catch ups are full of wonderful homemade food, a trading table of the excess produce we have in our gardens and women who all want to see the best for each other.  Its a group full of encouragement and support as we navigate the sometimes baffling platform of Instagram, and ensuring what we are each doing is falling in line with our "why" and our long term goals.  I later caught up with a new friend Angela who is a writer and a blogger from the group and we spent the afternoon talking about all things writing.  Really I cannot describe the joy in finding this group, and I consider myself deeply blessed to have been part of such a wonderful gathering of amazing women.

 The spread at our monthly 'Slow Gatherings'

I think about the women I have been friends with since high school, one of which is now my beautiful sister in law.  The dear friends I have met through raising my children, the children my children have knows since 6 weeks old.  I remember with gratefulness the times we have sat around each others kitchen table over long coffees, sharing in the trials and triumphs in each other's lives.  sometimes with endless laughter other times shedding a few tears.  But always supporting, encouraging and loving each other.

And then there was saying goodbye at all those I love at church.....Goodness, I blubbered a bit more there.

I'm not going to lie, leaving all of this is hard.  It's painful.  A kind of dull ache hits my heart and my eyes well with tears if I allow myself to think about it too much. These women may not all be connected to each other, but together they weave the very fabric that has sometimes been the only thing to keeping my head above water in this messy thing called life.

I am deeply thankful for these women, (and men in the instance of church!) for how they have shaped me, how they have loved me despite all my many quirks and imperfections.

As  I reflect on the end of a season I am filled with a deep sense of gratitude and love.  If wealth was measured in a person's friends and family I reckon I would be the richest woman in the world.  I think I might actually be the luckiest.



Much love,
Emma
xx






   

20 comments

  1. Fortunately, with the Internet or with old fashioned correspondence, you will be able to maintain your connection to old friends. I'm sure you'll soon have new friends after your move. Good luck with the move.

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    1. yes, I am lucky to be moving in an era when keeping in touch is easier then ever, if I didn't have the availability of such technology Im not sure I would be moving.
      It is very good, though still not the same as having those I love near.

      xx

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  2. It's not easy to leave such a loving group of friends, Emma. I know how hard it is.

    Though you won't see each other often, they will remain your friends always. And you will find wonderful new friends in your new area.

    Good luck and happy moving!

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  3. You are much braver than me, but true friends are always there even if they're not close geographically.
    Cassandra xx

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    1. Yes, there is that saying where a true friend is a person you can pick up a conversation with even when it has been a long time between catch ups.

      xx

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  4. Oh dearest Emma, don't think I wasn't feeling those same emotions as we enjoyed our last time together for awhile. I wanted to call out to you to come back again next week, before you move away, but I knew that this was our goodbye for now. Neither of us can deal with goodbyes, so we'll catch up again next time you're back on a visit. Meanwhile our messages to and fro will continue, about all manner of daily happenings, thoughts and questions to each other. I'm not going to say goodbye here either, so mind how you go dear friend. XXX Love

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    1. They certainly will, and a good excuse to keep that blog of yours up. Entirely for me so I can visit the farm. LOL.

      Fave podcast ever. Great taste dear Sally.

      Till next time we have a cuppa, xx

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  5. I don't like good byes either. They are the hardest. {{{Big hugs Emma}}} xxx

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  6. I feel your ache at how difficult saying good bye is. The sisterhood of women is such a blessing, Isn't it? I hope you soon find a lovely group of women who will sustain, and love you and your family as you begin this new journey, the old one will still be there even through the distance. Grace to you, dear Emma. Much Grace.

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    1. It really is such a blessing. I am lucky to know such wonderful people.

      Thankyou, blessings.

      xx

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  7. I have been where you are. We moved from our property of 20 years in the top end of the NT to the Fraser Coast. This happened 5 years ago. I miss my friends but am so grateful to have known them. Just last August we spent two weeks at a property just down the road from where we used to live. I caught up with many of those good friends. We were able to pick up where we had left off. It was wonderful. You have the blessing of small children to be able to get to know others, through school and other small people activities. I am still finding my way but gradually am finding others that I want to spend time with. You will be fine. The children will find new friends and life will take on a new shape that fits around your new lives. Saying farwell for now helped me. It can be done, it hurts for a little while, and then the adventure sets in.

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    1. That holiday sounds completely lovely! It can be quite slow finding a new friendship group can't it?

      I am very much looking forward to long holidays in SA doing the rounds and visiting, and hope a few can make the trip up too once in a while.

      xx

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  8. You're a braver soul than me, Emma. I would have been a blubbering mess to everyone I spoke to. I hate goodbyes as well. I moved a lot as a child and got used to relocating, but never to saying goodbye. I'd rather slip away without being noticed. That's why I say you're being brave to confront it.

    At least with Sally though, you can keep in touch via her blog. It's not the same as a personal visit, but you can at least have a touch of home while adjusting to your new location. Good luck with your eminent move. Cheers.

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    1. I usually blubber in private, and try to keep it at bay keeping the goodbyes very low key. Just as if we were having our usual cuppa. I tend to write the heartfelt messages, rather then say them. I find that easier.

      xx

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  9. Hello Emma ...I love your blog & your postings. I wrote you a really long comment today & it disappeared into cyberspace ... never to be seen! I really feel for you with saying Goodbye to your women friends. I think that perhaps we, as women, hold our female friends close to our hearts. They are there for the good times AND the bad times too & we share & confide in them. I wish I lived close to you so I could give you a great big hug XXxxxxxxx

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    1. Oh I hate it when that happens! That often happens to me too, I have got into the habit of highlighting and copying whatever I write prior to pressing enter, then if if it gets eaten by the internet I can simply paste it.

      Your right, we do hold our women friends very close to our heart. Its a great blessing.

      xx

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  10. 29 years ago we did a similar move, Canberra to the Clarence Valley. Our 3 young daughters were in the back seat of the station wagon & behind their seat was a cardboard box with little windows cut out so that 4 bantam heads could poke their heads out to see where they were going. Towed behind the car was the trailer with the A frame chook house which was filled with as much stuff that we could fit into it.
    I left behind friends, some of which I have maintained contact with & have made more in our community here. No regrets. Safe drive to the east coast. Lyn ox

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  11. will be with you in spirit Emma as you begin the next chapter and make so many new friends xxx

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